When I was 15 years old I made a list of all of the things that I wanted in my future husband. My 15 year old self would swoon if she only knew the kind of man that I ended up with. If you are not married yet, I would encourage you to make a list and start praying for that man. I could write an obnoxiously long list of all of the wonderful things about Brandon Nicholas Davis but I will do my best to keep it to my most favorites.
1. He loves the Lord.
Brandon did not grow up in a Christian home like I did. He came to know God all by himself when he was a teenager. His story amazes me. You should ask him about it sometime. It takes a tremendous amount of strength and faith to develop a relationship with the Lord without the support and accountability of family. He has such a pure and genuine faith. He asks questions, and does not put up with insincere answers. He seeks a relationship with God that is real and he leads our family to do the same.
2. He is slow to anger.
I will admit that I am not a very patient person. I can get a little heated from time to time. My husband however, is the most even-tempered person you will ever meet. I tend to get loud when I feel passionate about something. Brandon likes to quietly discuss things in a rational way. It's kind of ridiculous. Even though I get very frustrated with his calm and collected ways in the middle of a fight it is also one of the things I love the most about him. It takes a great deal of maturity and control to be both loving and calm when you are angry and my husband has somehow mastered this skill.
3. He is warm and affectionate.
My most favorite place to be in the whole world is wrapped up in Brandon's arms. He gives very warm and healing hugs. He comforts me without even saying a word. Physical touch is definitely one of my love languages so it was important to find an affectionate man. He also has a very warm and comforting personality. He always cares about the things that bother me, no matter how big or small they may be. He knows how to love me the way that I need to be loved.
4. He is a family man.
I have always known that I wanted to have a big family. I knew that I had to find a husband that would be a good father. I knew Brandon would be a great dad when we were dating, but he has far exceeded all of my expectations. The way he loves our son is beautiful. I melt into a puddle every time I see them snuggled up together taking a nap. I could go on and on but I think this video says it all.
5. He is a wonderful communicator.
I think that, stereotypically, the girl is usually the better communicator in the relationship, but that is not the case in my marriage. Brandon is a talker. He is a very gifted storyteller. He has always had a knack for knowing what I'm thinking and helping me talk through my feelings. I cherish this gift. I have learned more about myself since I have known Brandon than ever before. He doesn't let me draw up into myself. He is so easy to talk to and there is nothing on earth that I wouldn't tell him.
6. He is hilarious.
We have so much fun together! Life is hard and it throws some pretty serious situations at you sometimes. It's good if you have a partner to help you not take yourself too seriously, especially in tough times. We are silly. We make ridiculous inside jokes and tell them to each other ALL the time! Sometimes all you can do is laugh, and it helps if you have someone who is hilarious to make you laugh.
7. He is respectable.
Ok, ladies. There is something you need to know. All men, no matter who they are, need respect. It is engrained in them. They crave it. One of the greatest gifts you could ever give the men in your life is respect. I have no trouble respecting my husband. He is worthy of my respect in so many ways. I respect his leadership in our family. I respect his work ethic and the way that he provides for us. I respect his gentleness and sincerity. I could go on and on. Respect your man. Find a man who is worthy of your respect and show it to him.
I know that I have just gushed out a lot of very lovey dovey things. I say all of this to say that I have married the perfect man... just kidding.
I know that he is not perfect. No one is. He can be frustrating, we get on each other's nerves, and we can argue with the best of them. However--
He is perfect for me. And those things that I listed as a 15 year old make the rough times not so bad, and the good times even better. Figure out what you need in a partner and do not settle for anything less. Marriage is hard, so share it with someone who you will fight for even at the hardest of times. Share it with someone who at the end of your life you can look back and say, "I was better with him/her than I ever would have been without."
Here are some photos of the previously mentioned sillyness.
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